This question makes a big supposition, namely that men DO find their secretaries attractive! I do not know whether any scientific study has been made about the proportion of men who fancy their secretaries; I do not know. However, there appear to be numerous factors at play here, making the general assumption—that men find their secretaries attractive—questionable. For example:
- Not every woman who works as a secretary is young and beautiful.
- Not every man is a Lothario
- Not every woman is looking to seduce her boss.
- Not every man or every woman wants to be unfaithful to their partner.
That said, there are such things as office romances, and it does sometimes happen that a boss and his secretary will become sexually attracted to each other. In a previous place of work of mine, there was a famous occasion when a couple was discovered “in flagrante” in their office after hours, and both of them lost their jobs as a result.
OK, then. Let’s assume that some men find their secretaries attractive and seek to do something about it. Let’s also assume that some secretaries are willing partners in the affair. Why should this be?
Why Men Often Find Their Secretaries Attractive
• Availability. Busy managers may well spend more time in the company of their secretaries or other office staff than they do with their wives. Assuming that the working day is nine to five, the time spent commuting is an hour at the end of each day, and sleeping is eight, 17 of the 24 hours are accounted for already. If the man takes work home in the evening, spends at least some time with the children, and plays or watches sports on the weekend, the time spent with his wife is not all that great.
• Position of superiority. A boss is in a position of authority over a secretary. He tells her what to do all day, and she follows his instructions. That is quite a turn-on for some men, who might well fantasise about taking that relationship out of the office and into the bedroom. In the main, wives don’t like being told what to do, but secretaries are used to it. Men are stupid like that!
• Jealousy. A When a marriage encounters difficulties, a man may believe that if he could pique his wife’s jealousy slightly, she would be more receptive to his desires. It gives her the impression that there is another potential sexual partner in his life who competes with her, and … As I said above, some men are stupid like that!
• It takes two to tango. A woman who works for a powerful boss might see herself gaining personal status if she makes herself available to him in more than a purely business capacity. Being friendly to your boss is in your best interest, but some women go too far in this direction and put out signals that are taken as sexual ones. Also, remember that the office environment is unlikely to consist of single male bosses employing single female secretaries. A competition is going on to gain the boss’s favour, and some women use various techniques to win the game. Some bosses are attracted to their secretaries because they do the attracting, whether consciously or not.
So there you are. Mother Nature’s plan is for the male animal to seduce the female so that the female will be impregnated by the male and produce the next generation. She (Mother Nature, that is) is not too bothered whether the males and females in question are morally entitled to “get it on,” but she does what she can to put the pieces in place for such unions to happen, in terms of male lust and female beauty and coquettishness. When the social conditions of the workplace put good-looking people of the opposite sex into proximity for long periods, they are only helping Mother Nature to bring the plan to fruition!
