At a time when domestic stability is increasingly linked to mental and physical health, Rev. Mrs Olufunke Adetuberu has delivered a powerful blueprint for a toxic marriage exit plan, urging women to prioritise abuse survivor therapy as a non-negotiable step toward recovery.
Speaking at the Oyo Women Digital Inclusion leadership summit, the renowned counsellor shared her personal journey through childhood trauma to highlight how healing is the catalyst for professional and personal leadership.
The event, held on 9 April 2026 at the Agodi Gate Secretariat LG Training Centre, served as a dual-purpose platform: digital empowerment and emotional fortification. Adetuberu warned that suppressed pain is not merely a mental burden but a physical one, noting that living in constant agony can trigger terminal illnesses like cancer.
Toxic Marriage Exit Plan: Seeking Therapy for Abuse Survivors
Adetuberu’s address was a clarion call for women to undergo rigorous emotional screening. She argued that a toxic marriage exit plan must be underpinned by professional guidance. The speaker highlighted several essential pathways to recovery, including personality assessments, sexual therapy, and addiction screening.
“Get healed first,” she repeated, stressing that mental stability is the ceiling for what any woman can accomplish. According to Adetuberu, many victims remain trapped in cycles of violence due to trauma bonding or the complication of unplanned pregnancies.
She was firm in her assessment: partners in abusive relationships must recognise the moment to depart, using strategies developed through clinical assessment rather than impulse.
Financial Freedom for Women as a Shield
A recurring theme of the summit was the intersection of economic dependence and domestic vulnerability. Adetuberu disagreed with the notion that women must endure suffering, noting that many stay in life-threatening situations purely due to a lack of resources.
To break this cycle, she admonished women to pursue a “strong solid financial freedom.” This sentiment was echoed by the organisers of the AI Revolution Leadership Momentum, which sought to bridge the digital gap for women in business and career sectors. The consensus was clear: for a woman to be a “wounded healer” and make a lasting impact, she must be fit mentally, physically, and financially.
Leadership and Digital Innovation in Oyo
The workshop, organised by Hon. Ramota Agberemi Dabo, Senior Special Assistant to Governor Seyi Makinde on LG and Chieftaincy Matters, aimed to shape the future of women in the digital economy. Representing Her Excellency, Engr. Tamunonini Makinde, the Head of Service, Mrs Olubunmi Oni, encouraged participants to convert their new AI knowledge into “new streams of income with high productivity.”
Adetuberu concluded her session with a poignant reminder of resilience: “Until you become a wounded healer, rejection can only affect one’s past, not the future.”
A Distinguished Assembly
The summit attracted a high-profile delegation of Oyo State’s female leadership, including Hon. Olufunke Comforter, Chairman of the House Committee on Women Affairs, and Hon. Bisi Oluranti Oyewo Michael. Technical sessions led by Dr. Adekunbi Omotosho provided hands-on training in business automation and content generation, ensuring that the participants left with both the emotional tools to survive and the digital tools to thrive.
The event concluded with practical empowerment, as Hon. RAD provided cash gifts and special packages to over 70 participants, reinforcing the commitment to women’s holistic development in Oyo State.
